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A Case of the Enoughs
A nasty disease is reported cycling through home school moms as they begin
the school year. It isn't the flu, though it can sometimes make you feel
dizzy. You don't break out in spots or have to spend two weeks in bed
recovering (though sometimes you wish you could just stay in bed and hide).
Deeper study hasn't yet confirmed it, but by all indications it is
contagious. What's interesting is that while it can be caught from obvious
carriers who exhibit the symptoms, sometimes those exposed to a seemingly
healthy home school mom, full of energy and confidence, get it the worst.
Maybe you've felt the symptoms: fatigue, fear, tightness in the neck and
shoulders. Some moms report headaches or queasy stomachs. Occasionally, it
can even affect thought processes and impede the ability to make decisions.
Here's how to tell if you have been infected. If you've dwelt on any (or
all!) of the following questions, it is recommended that you immediately
administer the antidotes explained at the bottom of this article. Long term
dwelling on these questions deepens the severity of the disease. Here are
the questions: Am I smart enough for this? Where am I going to get enough
time? Am I organized enough? Do I have enough patience? Am I spiritual
enough? Do I have enough qualifications? Am I wise enough? Am I . . .
If any of those pesky "enough" germs have been getting you down, it may be
helpful for you to know that you are not alone. Research indicates that
every mom who has attempted home schooling has asked one or more of these
questions at some point in their journey. Even those moms who claim to have
experienced relief from the symptoms admit that they sometimes relapse after
they have seemingly conquered the disease.
Antidote # 1 is very important: Remember you are not alone. Find a
trustworthy friend who has experienced similar symptoms and commit to
encouraging each other. (Note: this antidote doesn't work if both parties
wallow in the symptoms without fighting the illness through hugs, prayer,
humor, and good advice. Many report that is it helpful to allow each other
plenty of "vent" time before offering prayer or insight into the issues
involved. Vent time can include complaining, whining, tears, or in advanced
cases, anger. Short circuiting vent time sometimes results in a lack of
healing from the disease and leaves the infected mom feeling less "enough"
that before she sought support.)
Antidote # 2 is also effective for ushering in full health: Find a mentor
who has experienced your stage of home schooling. If you are just beginning,
it might be most helpful to talk to a mom who has home schooled for just a
few years. If you're in a transition period, like having a new baby or your
oldest entering high school, find a home school mom who has already
navigated this stage. This antidote doesn't necessarily include venting,
which may be more effective with a good friend who is a peer, but if the
mentor is open to venting, this antidote may be administered alongside
antidote #1. It is also helpful to ask the mentor to pray for you.
Antidote # 3 is the most important anti-disease medication. Not taking time
to apply this antidote to your disease can result in only minimal relief
without getting to those deep seeded germs that will continue to fester
within. This antidote takes a little explaining, so here goes:
First, kneel before a bed, a chair, or any object in your home. (Not
everyone assumes this position, but many find it a helpful physical
_expression of inward application.) Then, pray this (it can be with tears,
yells, or complete calm. The mood does not matter as long as you are sincere
about the words): "Oh God! I am not enough!"
There are different inner responses to this prayer. Some report feeling a
sudden calm. Others a moment of panic, followed by surprising peace. My
personal experience with a similar situation included a voice in my heart
that said something like, "Good. It's about time you figured that out."
After you let the truth settle in your heart that you really aren't enough
for the task of home schooling, it is imperative that you replace that spot
in your soul with another truth: You know the One who is enough and He is
waiting to give you all you need for the task. To verify the truth of these
statements read the following verses in your Bible: Phil 4:13 & 19 and
Now, add a prayer to the first that sounds something like this: "Lord, I
know I'm not enough for this job of home schooling. I also know You are and
that You have promised to give me all I need to complete this task."
You'll discover that you need this antidote often, sometimes several times a
day, as you home school. Once the disease is brought into submission, you
may need fewer applications of the antidote because the medicine will have
seeped deeply into your heart. Your immunity will have increased. Until this
stage of healing comes however, apply antidote # 3 as many times a day as
necessary. After initial application, others can be shortened and applied
quickly. Instead of taking a kneeling position you can say the following in
any position or from any place, "Help! I'm not enough, God, but I know you
are. Thank you for giving me what I need." Sometimes all that is necessary
is one word, spoken aloud, "HELP!" God will answer the shortened version,
In my personal battle with this nasty "enoughs" disease, I've found it
important to repeatedly apply all the antidotes described above for
Over time, the "enoughs" disease diminishes. There are times you don't even
notice the symptoms. However, the germs are always there, waiting to infect
home school moms at the most inconvenient moment, so always keep a fresh
supply of the medication on hand.
This article is copyright Paula Moldenhaur and is reprinted
A home schooling mother of four, Paula Moldenhauer is passionate about God's
grace and intimacy with Jesus. Her website offers home schooling hints, book
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